Thursday, February 4, 2010

The Portal Was Open

A few days back I was standing in line in the produce section of LuLu's. There is a area in which you can have your fresh pineapples, peeled and sliced for you. So, while we're standing there, waiting for our turn, the Saudi lady (completely covered, with the exception of her eyes) standing in front of me, just started talking to me. I have NEVER had this happen before. Ever!! She asked me if I was from South Africa. I told her no, that I was American, from California. She said that's nice. She then commented on the price for the pineapple cutting service, blah, blah, blah. But the funniest past was when she asked if I was married, I said, "yes, this is my husband right here". And, she looked at us and said "oh...you don't match". LMAO!!!! Oh-mi-god. Roland said something, I can't remember now, but we all laughed. And, the fact that she spoke to me...I just loved that. Some times I want to speak, but honestly, it's kinda intimidating to speak to someone who you don't know and their face is covered. I'm glad she reached out.

Then, while in Tamimi's (Safeway/Vons in the states) this Saudi man overheard my distress over the guy at the deli counter telling me that they didn't have any of the Palestinian Olive Oil (This stuff is the sh*t). He goes, "there is a store, not to far from here, and they sell Palestinian food products". After it was all said and done, this guy had drew us a map, told us to bargain (despite the price marked), and to sample before I buy (sometimes they will try and foist the cheaper stuff on you). After we thanked him profusely, he was like, "no problem. I lived in the United States once, and people helped me". Can you believe this guy? Freakin' Awesome!!

Then...(yes there's more). We're on our way home from Al-Khobar (the location of LuLu's and Tamimi's) and while at a red light, the guys next to just started bobbing their heads to the Reggae music we were playing. Then they turned up their stereo so we could hear what they were listen to. At this point we rolled our window down further and asked them what they were listening to, and they said Arabic music. We said, "cool. we're listening to Reggae". and they're like, "yea, we know...we like it". The light turned green, and we all smiled, waved at each other and went on our way.

I tell you...the portal to the Saudi people must have been open that day, because I've never had this experience, let alone all in one day. So...I'm still trippin' off of it. And, I laugh every time I think of this lady saying, "But, you don't match". LMAO!!

17 comments:

Anthrogeek10 said...

LOL girl!! Too funny. :)
I am happy your experiences have become more positive regarding interacting with the locals. I also found it to be very intimidating to approach hijabi women with niqab in Bahrain.
That is really cool....but that comment was...ummm...so bold. You two seemed to handle it with grace and humor.

anthrogeek10 (who is reading much too much these days--too many ethnographies!)

BCIS said...

Hey Anthrogeek! Yea...it was funny. I didn't take her statement as being mean...when she said it, it was more like, she was surprised...and it just came out. I take it kinda like I take it when child comes up and rubs my arm because he wants to touch my skin (this has actually happened), because he's never been this close to a black person...innocently curious.

Mel said...

This was hilarious, love the pineapple lady! I also love the reggae moment, esp. since I love that stuff myself. The KSA seems to be growing on you, and you appear to be growing on the KSA :)

BCIS said...

Hi Mel...yea...something appears to be growing somewhere. LOL

Anthrogeek10 said...

Its odd to me because I know black people are people. My Dad was really stern regarding education he gave to us about people who were a different color/shade than us. I am not saying we should not recogize differences. I believe we should and embrace/celebrate them. Its a beautiful thing when we have different things to learn about others. I just would never "pet" a black person like that kid did to you. I grew up in ChiTown.
lol
I took a linguistic course and the prof (African-American) taught us some ebonics and she told us that being "color blind" is not possible and it is ok to celebrate differences.
anthrogeek10

BCIS said...

@Anthro...to be fair...the kid did not "pet" me...he rub my skin. He was curious. It was an honest curiosity. He was recognizing my difference and was curious about it. Kids are honest in their curiousity...unlike most adults. I think Americans find it easy to find offense. That is because their history is filled with racial offenses. However, I have found people from other countries that didn't need to "be taught" because it just wasn't in their makeup culturally.

Unknown said...

Hi Terri, I hope you are enjoying your time there. I am from Saudi Arabia but now studying at the U.S. I like the American people and its nice to see some Americans go to Saudi. That will help in letting some Americans know the real people and the real situation there. The media made us and our country look so bad. Most Saudis are nice and don't mind talk to or invite people that they meet for the first time. They are less formal and easy to get along with.

I think the weather is so nice these days in Dhahran.
Abdullah

Anonymous said...

Hi just passing by your blog. Seems interesting. Glad that your portal was opened. Maybe your attitude to where you are has adjusted and so that has generated good vibes from you...which has in turn made you more approachable.
I lived in Saudi for a while and I never had any problems with discrimination. I did live in an Area that was Saudi/Sudanese/GCC predominantly and I was the "token black chick" but never did I encounter any problems. Oh as for the reggae..when I lived in Saudi and I told them where I was from(UK) they would always look at me like how da heck does a black woman come from the UK...so Id always tell them that my parents were from Jamaican...theyd always say "Yamaica! Ahh Bob Marley" lol.
Thats love right there.

BCIS said...

@ aaishah3 Thanks for stopping by. For the most part I don't experience any discrimination. However, as I stated in my video, the few times (2 - 3) I have, the person has always been American. But, never from Saudi's.

I do agree that your attitude affects your energy. And, my attitude is a lot better than when I first arrived here, which has made me more relaxed, which would make anyone more approachable.

Haroun said...

You don't match your husband! That must have been a priceless Saudi moment.

My wife and I would get problems sometimes, and she's from India. Glad to hear you had a good turn with it.

Just discovered the blog. Nice work. Keep writing!

BCIS said...

@Haroun Thanks for stopping by and for your nice words. =)

TheOzSys said...

Hi there! Stumbled upon your blog from the Expat Blog site and I must say - you have a gem of a blog! :) Do wish the "portal" opens more often in this part of the world if only to give expats like ourselves some semblance of "life as we know it" (*wink*). Keep blogging!

BCIS said...

Thanks Pinky for stopping by!!

Aakifah said...

Salaam sis...I am an American woman, who just recently married a man from Saudi (his mom is from UAE and father is from Nigeria originally, tho). Insh'Allah, I do hope to one day visit Saudi with him and to meet his family. I am loving your blog so far. Anyways, I wanted to say that this particular post made me laugh...that pineapple woman...lol...classic moment! I'm glad you were able to not take offense to her comment; some ppl are overly-sensitive to things like that when the person really means no harm.

I look forward to reading more posts from you in the future, insh'Allah.

Salaam,
Aakifah

BCIS said...

Thanks Aakifah for stopping by and for reading my blog!

Unknown said...

LMAO I'm loving your blog
I stumbled on it after watching a video of yours
This is enlightening I've always thought expats liked keeping to themselves. Next time I see an expat I'll open the Saudi portal LOL

BCIS said...

@Rawan...thanks for stopping by. Yes...please, open up the portal, you may just be surprised.