5 Good Days In A Row

Wow!!  I can hardly believe it...I have had at least 5 good days in a row.   I went to a birthday party a few days back...that was good.  Oh Yea...then last week we purchased a dining room table...and it was actually delivered on the day and time they said if would be.  That was definitely an "OHMIGOD I can't believe it" moment.  And, BTW, I LOVE IT!!   We found someone to frame our artwork...who has a shop in Khobar...but also works out of a house in Dhahran.  We got 6 pieces framed, 2 with custom frame work, and we actually got that done in 3 days!!  For 1000 Riyals!!  And, he drove up to Ras Tanura.  So...you can see (from what you're reading LOL) that my house is coming together.  Sometimes it feels like time passes soooooo slow here...but I know it's passing because my backyard is landscaped, and the plants are growing.  Just 3 months ago...it was sand with seashells.  

Even though I'm starting to live more...I'm still counting down to vacations and OOK time.  OOK is the acronym used down here for "Out Of Kingdom".   My mom has shipped me a care package... Yea!!!!!!!!!  So I'm counting down to that...should have it in 1 week.  Can't wait to get it, I have stuff from Crate and Barrel, Bloomingdales, Nordstrom's, and Raw Vegan Source.  Then on August 1st...we're outtie.  Going to Seattle for 12 days, then driving down to San Diego for 10 days.   I'm making a few friends...but they're mostly all in Dhahran.  I so wish I could move back.  I like to use the 80/20 rule (which can be used for many things) when it comes to people.  When I meet them...I will not have anything in common with 80% of them.   Why is that?  I found that most people are "status quo" and I like people who are "different", non-judgemental, and who thrive on being "out of the box".  And, Gawd, I HATE people who always want to tell other people what they need to do, should do, or what they shouldn't do.  So...that means...I'm only going to like 2 out of every 10 people I meet.   Please know...I do recognize it goes both ways...so that means that 8 out of 10 people will not like me.  With those odds...I think I may have a hard time finding someone who I completely vibe with on this small camp.  But...time will tell.  Hell...I didn't know I could/would actually have 5 good days in a row.

Peace... and Later...

Michael Jackson - Rest In Peace

Today we have lost an icon.  My condolences go out to his children, his family, his fans.  He will be greatly missed.  There isn't one person on earth who doesn't know at least Michael Jackson song.  May He Now Rest In Peace.

2 Dang Hot

It's over 100 degrees Fahrenheit every single day.  And, it's just getting started.  So... Let me just say:  IT IS TOO DANG HOT to be wearing an abaya.

Enough Said!!

Taking One Box At a Time!!

Finally...I've started to unpack my boxes.  And, the more I unpack...the more I want to unpack.  I started in my kitchen, because (1) we're real foodies (healthy food) and (2) I like to have all my gadgets, various mixing bowls, special knives, etc.   It is always cool to find for example my perfect 2 cup glass measuring cup, that has ways to measure ingredients using 6 different methods.  In the states...it also doubles as a Martini shaker...gotta love that. =)

Well...last night I unpacked a random box...and it had nik naks, framed family photos, and vacation art that I need to have framed (this is perfect timing since I just found someplace on camp to get my pictures framed).  These personal items are what really start to turn a stone cold, gotta have the air conditioning on building, into a home.  It's inspiring me to look at ways of decorating the place.  Because the deal is...the layout of our house is nice, the rooms are big and roomy, especially for just the 2 of us.

Now...I've just received an email where a group of people are donating clothes to women and children in Africa.  OK...so for those who don't know me...I'm a clothes horse. I know I have some stuff I can give away and not miss.  So what does that do?  If gives me motivation to unpack the 6+ boxes of clothes and related apparel items.

What I surmise from all of this is that the energy wants me to unpack (does that mean it wants me to start considering this place home?).  So, I'm taking it...one box at a time.

House Help....Finally

Today we hired what the Saudi's call a "houseboy"...I prefer to call him my house helper.  Houseboy is so degrading.  Reminds of back in the old south how whites would degrade black men by calling them "boy".  The man could be 70 years old...worthy of respect...but they would still call him "boy".  

So...Anyway...he started working today.  I'm going to have him come by once a week, for a few hours.  So...for all my friends in the States...  I do not have a maid.  I will be cleaning my own house, most of the time.  He will only doing the major stuff; washing windows, floors, etc.

I'm a little uncomfortable with him cleaning while I'm online (he's vacuuming as I type)...but I need some motivation to finally move into this house and not treat it as a crash pad (but I think I'm gonna get used to it real quick).  I've been told that I haven't started to consider SA home (I doubt I ever will) and that's the reason I haven't unpacked 80% of my boxes.  I haven't been giving "a rat's azz" about anything here...but that can be depressing, and it's probably contributing to my doldrums.  So...with him helping me get my kitchen prepped (lining cabinets, etc.) I will finally finish unpacking those boxes...then I can have him help me put that stuff up (or clean it, before I put it up)...and it starts there.  Already my living room is looking better, the sand (this gets in/on everything) is off my windows and window sills, and I'm feeling good about this move to hire this guy...I was actually going to call him and tell him not to come by today.  Thank Goodness I didn't.  =)

Decided 2 Unblock

So...I've decided to unlock my blog.  Why?  Because I just don't care anymore.  If people don't like what I write...they can NOT come by.  I will ignore the trolls, and just do "my thang".  

I haven't written in a while because I haven't been in Saudi Arabia.  As some of you know... I left SA for 2 months from Mid Fed - Mid April.  Well I was back for 3 weeks then left left on a family vacation for most of the past 3 weeks.  Hubby, my mom, her friend, and myself.  18 days (i'm counting travel days), 5 countries!!  Spent 4 days in London; went on an 11 night Mediterranean Cruise; then 2 days in Barcelona.  Had a blast...you can check out my review of the cruise here:  

http://www.cruisecritic.com/memberreviews/memberreview.cfm?EntryID=55261  

I've visited so my cities on this trip, and with all my travels...I have decided that it's almost a must that I start a Travel Blog.  During this trip...I took over 1000 pictures and 400 video clips.  And, I'd like to share these; but not on this blog.  So...a new blog it is.  I don't know what I'm going to call it yet.  I like the moniker "Black Chick"...but I haven't come up with anything clever to follow this.  I've temporarily selected, Black Chick on Tour.  But, I would be stealing this idea from a friends blog...so I'm kinda not feeling it...but it does sound cute.  So...if anyone has any real suggestions, holla' at me.

Wow...it kinda feels good to be back writing again.  I think I've had/have a case of the doldrums.  I'm working it out...

Censorship - Gotta Love It...NOT!!!

So...I'm doing research for my upcoming vacation.  On several occasions I've been blocked from going to a site based on something that is on the site.  OK...so let's say you understand if they block p*rn sites.  But, I'm being blocked as I'm researching body piercing shops in London.  I got my nose pierced about 6 weeks ago, and I want the ring changed...since it's not fully healed...I'm looking to a professional to change it.  I've been blocked from 2 sites, and from certain pages within one site.  I wanted information on a specific (Villa Vignamaggio) viney*rd in Italy, so we can do a w*ne tasting at this fabulous villa in Tuscany, I am blocked from that site.

Wanna know what censorship looks like?  This is what I see when I'm being told "NO!!!  U CAN'T GO THERE!!".

So Over Saudi Arabia

I haven't posted since I've been back...because there is nothing to post.  I'm living my life in a fishbowl filled with dust.  I'm so over Saudi Arabia, I find it boring.  You can read previous posts...and just change the dates...nothing has changed in regards to what it's like living here.  So, I'm unmotivated to write about much right now.  Maybe that will change

I'm still meeting new people, but I'm laying low.  I went to this women's coffee meeting I was invited to and I met a few  women...then one walks in and says to me, "you're the lady with that blog.  I recognize you from the picture".   And, my first thoughts are "oh shit.  like I need this BS".  Just the words "that blog"; let's me know there has been talk, or at least that is the assumption I made.  Then I notice one lone "other" black chick there...and I can't help but wonder if this is the B*tch that was writing crap about me on the expat forum.  So, I don't want to have anything to do with her, regardless, because you just never know people; but people know me.  When I say "people know me", I say that because anyone who has had any interaction with me knows that (1) I'm genuine, no BS here, (2) I speak my mind or keep quiet, but never will feed you crap, (3) you will always know where you stand, I don't fake and front, and (4) I won't talk about you behind your back while smiling in your face.  And, these basic, "straight shooter" attributes are really hard to find in people; especially women.

So, I've been spending my time and putting my focus on my husband, our lives, and getting our home in order.  I am going to a beach party next week in Bahrain; that should be fun.  I'm actually looking forward to it.   You can check out the location here:  www.aldarislands.com.   Bahrain...actually is like a savior, for me anyway.  I was there a few days back...I got to shop, went to a movie, eat and drink, and drive; and walk around with some semblance of normalcy (don't have to wear the abaya).  

The good news is that I'm going on vacation in exactly 2 weeks.  =)  yea!!  18 days traveling throughout Europe with hubby, my mom and her friend.  So...that should be fun.  And, of course I will take plenty of pics and video footage.  

I'm actually thinking of creating a travel blog; that would be a good project to get started...I already have tones of footage from previous travels.  Maybe that would be a better outlet than this blog.  I gotta give that some thought.

Later...

Password Protection

Well...I'm back in the KSA.  Nothing new...Same ol, same ol...with the exception that this time...there are going to be a few changes.  One of these changes is that I'm going to Password Protect my blog.

When I created this blog...I DID NOT create it to give advise, get advise, or make friends; and I certainly didn't expect to have a few crazy biotches chasing me down (one of them was trying to force me to have lunch with her!!  How many times do you need to tell a "B" you don't want to have lunch with her and you don't have the slightest interest in getting to know her?  The other was just a "hater" girl spreading lies about me online.).  Granted I have some people who read my blog regularly and appear to enjoy it, and have given me some good advice, however, I don't have the patience for the BS.  I created this blog for my friends and family back home; and to have a written record regarding my  experiences, as I'm making a documentary about my stay here.  Somewhere along the way I got lost and caught up in how many "hits I was getting"; versus my original intentions.  I've made this decision after much consideration.  This will be the last post that isn't password protected.

Friends and Family:  I will be sending you the password soon via email and Facebook.

Everyone Else:  If you're a regular reader; contact me if you're still interested in reading my blog, and if I recognize you, I will email you the password.

Peace!!

Headed back to the KSA!!

It's been a while since I've written.  That's because Black Chick is in San Diego.  I've been here for the past 2 weeks visiting my son and my family.  San Diego is freakin' AWESOME!!  I took some "tourist footage" that I plan to share shortly.  

Well...I'm headed back to the KSA.  And, this time...I'm really ready.  I miss my husband.  And, I have a new attitude.  Also, I'm tired of living out of suitcases (which I've been doing since mid December)...and I'm ready to get my home set up and our lives "back to normal".  Our stuff arrived while I was gone.  So...that's cool.   Can't wait to get everything set up.  

I did so much freakin shopping while here.  I stocked up on cute t-shirts, make-up (I haven't seen my brand in the KSA, and what they have is much more expensive), swimwear (I'm going on vacation in May), kitchen stuff (I don't know if they have kitchen ware stores in the KSA like Bed Bath Beyond; I haven't seen one), shoes, organic/raw snacks that I love, I even bought Roland stuff LOL.  Anyway...I came with 2 pieces of luggage and I'm leaving with 3 pieces and 2 boxes.  

The car service I hired should be here in 1 hour to take me to LAX.  So...I'm out.

Pondering Life in Seattle

It was a beautiful day in Seattle today.   I haven't posted in a while because I'm not a Black Chick in Saudi, LOL, I'm a Black Chick in Seattle, who isn't doing much of anything, other than getting together with friends, and pondering life and stuff.  Stuff I don't feel like sharing so....until I get back to the KSA my posts will be light.   However, I did want to share Seattle.  Seattle is my adopted hometown, and I will miss it.  When it's gray and rainy for days on end,  it is easy to forget how beautiful it is here.  But, when spring actually comes, and it's green, lush, the sun is shining, the trees and flowers are blooming; then summer hits and this town really comes alive.  There is so much to do in the summer time.  Yea...Seattle is cool...this town can hang with the best of them.

View of Mount Rainier from Lake Washington

Elliott Bay

The ferries are as much a part of Seattle as the space needle.  Those are the Olympic Mountains in the background.

Seattle skyline from Alki Beach.

OK - So It Isn't That Bad

Ok...so after a brief hiatus I'm back to my blog.  I'm in Seattle, while Roland is training in Dallas.   I must admit...it's kinda boring.  With the exception of one friend, all my friends are at work.  That gave me a lot of time to think, and read, and think, and think.  I was asked by 2 people, "is it really that bad"?   I thought about that question for a decent amount of time.  And, I've determined, no, it isn't that bad, and, the longer I've been here in Seattle, the more I'm feeling that, "it wasn't that bad".  Besides a few personal hiccups in adjusting to situations and how things are done...it wasn't that bad.  Some of the things I thought I missed I didn't.   What I did miss were my friends.  I've rediscovered my female support system of real friends who where there for me and listened while I whined over a glass of wine.  It's so important to have that, yet when you're the trailing spouse, it appears that people don't take notice that you've undergone a major stressor and that being a newbie...you don't have that female support system of friends you can trust, to help pull you up, when people want to bring you down, or you're just feeling down and missing home. 

I thought I missed daytime television (I don't know why since I worked during the day, but when I stayed home I watched it).  So, I'm home during the day with daytime television.  Television I thought I missed, only to come to realize that it was the familiarity I missed...as I have tried to watch these shows since I've been back (and I've been back in the states for 12 days now), and I'm not really interested.  So...I've found a few things that I miss about being in Saudi Arabia; (1) the $5.00US Fill up.  It just cost me $38US to fill up my Pathfinder, (2) they make the construction trucks and 18 wheelers stay in the far right lane; (3) Hummus (which I guess I can get here, but I had my routine of getting it at the Dining Hall, and it's really good there.  I thought I missed Starbucks...then I get back and I've only been to Starbucks once; I've been getting my daily espresso at the Metropolitan Market, and it's perfect.  So...really...even though I only stayed a short time before I left to come back to the states.  I think going back this time is going to be easier, since I will be coming back to a home, and not a bunch of waiting, and processing, etc. etc.  My shipment will have arrived, so my house will be set up with our things.  The attitude shift is, I've gone from, "ok...I'm doing this.  what is  this going to be like?  I already miss my television shows" to "ok...time to go home.  make sure you've purchased all your extra goodies, done sufficient shopping, have Roland bring abaya to airport just in case, and I will be glad to be home, finally, with my husband"

I may be getting towards the end of Act 2 of Culture Shock (a real phenomena).  And, this out of the blue, early return, has kinda help me put things in perspective and has aided me in developing a new attitude (especially when thinking only about what I've lost or given up).  I've learned that yes, I have some inconveniences by living in Saudi and having to depend on other people; but overall it isn't that bad.  And, as with anywhere I've learned that there are some great people out there and I've learned there are some vicious people out there, and this time around to take it slow.  I've had the demo version; I think I'm going to upgrade and take the entire package.

What Is The Deal?

Let me start by 1st stating that, "NOT ALL WESTERNERS/EXPATS ARE LIKE THIS"  and that as I have mentioned on several occasions how I've met "a lot of really nice people" who have quite frankly welcomed me and are helping me with my transition through their communications and company (i.e. hanging out together)  This is my disclaimer since there are some who can't read and comprehend. (LOL)  Now that I have gotten my disclaimer out of the way....I have to ask:  Why is it that if I get any type of comment to any particular post the person who "takes it out of context and gets defensive" is always a westerner/expat? 

I have yet to get that from an Arab/Saudi who responds to either my posts or videos.  In fact:  on my video comments the Saudi/Arab's are always either welcoming, informing, or trying to educate me a little.  But I never get the "get over it" or "so what" comments from them; it's always (from what I can guess based on the entire comment and/or their alias) from westerners/expats.  

So...before I start getting slandered and receiving hate mail; I'm seriously curious about this phenomena.  What is it?   So...the comments I would like to receive on this are answers to my question as to why the westerners/expats, are the one's who are defensive and in some cases just rude?

Below are the 16 comments (these are all the comments received) on my video: Living in Saudi Arabia:  2 Weeks In.  Please Note the comment from SAUDIBIPASHA who stated:  Thank you for your beautiful feelings towards the My beautiful Saudi Arabia

Following is the link to the video comments page and the all of the actual comments submitted

http://www.youtube.com/comment_servlet?all_comments&v=YuIrsTrOs0I&fromurl=/watch%3Fv%3DYuIrsTrOs0I%26feature%3Dchannel_page

All Comments (16 total)

ALMUHANNAD (4 weeks ago)

abaya looks kool on you

5 stars rate

wenarto (4 weeks ago) 

LOL - 5 stars, I love the black dress, I want one

nvmee8 (4 weeks ago) 

you are so funny!! lol!! that looks so good on you....i would love to go to any country and live like them for a year, you should try to learn arabic !! i cant wait to see the rest of your videos...by the way im watching all the way from cali baby!! haha take care and remember don't eat or drink with your left hand k..laaaaaaaaaaaaate

tlundberg (4 weeks ago) 

All the way from cali baby!! I love it...my home state. I'll be there for about 3 weeks in April...can't wait. And, yes...I plan to take some Arabic classes...but don't expect to hear me speaking it in the near future.

ahilsunnah (4 weeks ago) 

the black dress is a most for her in Saudi or she'll be arrested

tlundberg (3 weeks ago) 

Actually, that's not entirely true. I've seen numerous Western women in the malls without the Abaya on. I hear it's worst in Riyadh, but in Khobar...I see it quite regularly...western women not wearing the abaya. And, I myself, never cover my hair, even when I'm wearing the abaya.

agc3168 (3 weeks ago) 

May I suggest you shop for a "Jallabiyah". There's some really nice ones out there. I'm following your posts with lots of interest, and wish you a pleasant, memorable stay in Al-Khobar.

ahilsunnah (3 weeks ago) 

Well in Jeddah u will but not like Riyad dont evan think about it

ahilsunnah (3 weeks ago) 

well in jeddah u might be but in right or like some rural area u will be and evan might have a hearing with a Judge

h3mmod1990 (3 weeks ago) 

LOL that was very funny , ill subscribe to you , waitng for more !!!

BTW am from qatar next to saudi

akwah2002 (2 weeks ago)

lool ..... I sow your older post first, the one you were talking about moving in ..... I was like : now here is another foreigner (particularly American) who think she is going to a desert and expecting to find camels and oil wells every where.... Saudi Arabia is way more than that .... and I hope you have the time to discover for yourself welcome to Saudi Arabia .... I would pour you a small cup of Arabian coffee if I could :)

tlundberg (2 weeks ago) 

That was you making assumptions about me. And, BTW: in my 1st post NEVER stated that. But...don't act like this isn't the desert...because it is. It is a desert with houses, streets, stores, restaurants, airports, etc...but none the less...it's the desert. And, you know you can't even think about offering me coffee. =) You're on restriction. LOL

mhagrkorea (2 weeks ago) 

hhhhhh cool

akwah2002 (2 weeks ago) 

just like California :) .....( minus everything) loooool

well if you ever had the time to visit Riyadh you and your husband..... just give me a note .... you'll see what I can do.... :)

tlundberg (1 week ago) 

True that! Actually, when we drive around in some spots here it actually looks a lot like the western (inland) coast of Mexico.

I plan to visit Riyadh...I don't know when...but how can I not visit Riyadh at some point, just like I must go to Jeddah.

WHATZUP1400 (1 week ago) 

hay .. nice of you to show a good point of view about Saudi.. 

by the way.. i think you should go to Jeddah.. it's way cool than Riyadh..

both are nice places but Jeddah is better

oh.. i forgot.. wellcom to Saudi :))

SUBAHANNALLAH (2 weeks ago) 

Your soooo lucky!!

SMNOON (1 week ago) 

hey i'm from Saudi and i find you very interesting and funny would you like to be on saudi TV to tell your story ?? that would be awesome .waiting for your reply :)

SAUDIBIPASHA (1 week ago) 

Dear Madam 

Thank you for your beautiful feelings towards the My beautiful Saudi Arabia 

Believe me, the people of Saudi Arabia, a peaceful and good 

I admire your beautiful Madam

ss121ss121 (2 days ago) 

you are welcome in saudi arabia =)

Completely Floored

So...today...I find out that someone is slamming me and my blog on the company forum. I got pissed off and accused the wrong person, based on who told me about it. Which has caused further tension. Because of this I've been told they don't want to be affiliated or mentioned on my blog because of what this "anonymous" person wrote about me. I'm completely floored...this person wrote the post back in December, it's completely false, taken out of context (it's as if this person can not read and comprehend) and inflammatory and it was written before I even arrived in Saudi. I don't know what to do about it...or if I should do anything at all...all I know is that...the culture I'm getting used to...but this BS..has me ready to leave and not come back. Seriously. But...then that would make them the winner, and I'm a fighter...but right now...I'm pretty pissed about it. Why slam me on the company site...why not disagree with me on my post via the comments? This is someone who is so petty, and such a spiteful person that they are trying to affect our livelihood. It's shameful that the moderators would even allow this type of thing to occur. I'm so done.

How Quickly Things Change

OK.  So...after finally getting into our permanent housing, meaning they finally came out and hooked up the secondary phone line and the ADSL (I refused to move and not have internet access), and we're going to leave Dhahran for Ras Tanura (I like to call it Rasta), Roland get's a call (this past Wednesday) and it goes something like this..."we're moving you to the Boeing 737; you leave Friday for Dallas for training, you'll be there until March 12th".  WTF?  We just got in our house!!!  When the call came...the technicians were still in the house.  I was leaving to go back to Seattle and then San Diego...but my ticket was for me to leave March 2nd.  So...what?  I'm suppose to sit in this sandbox by myself for 3 weeks!!!  ARGH!!!!!!  It was kinda frustrating, as I was looking forward to getting my stuff out of boxes, and suit cases, etc.  We actually had a date that Wednesday to go to dinner and to the movies in Bahrain...but that quickly changed since now he has to start scrambling to leave in 2 days.  If you've never seen pilots train; it's insane the material they have to go through; as they should, our lives are literally in their hands.  So...after the shock was over with...and I discovered that for a mere $600 (double ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!) I could pull my ticket up to leave on Friday as well...I decided it was worth it.  We still have our home in Seattle so it isn't as if I don't have a place to stay.  The shock has now turned to excitement...and I'm out...I'm out for 2 months!!  My plane lands at SEA on Saturday at 4:10PM, just in time for happy hour (LOL); my GF is picking me up from the airport.  Now, I'm at the point to where I can hardly wait.  The "not so good news" is Roland will be in Dallas and I will be in Seattle on V-Day.  The good news is that I'm going to eat an organic valencia orange, and I'm going shopping.  Watch out Nordstroms...here I come!!  =)

So...I will be spending the rest of Feb and most of March in Seattle...then I head to San Diego (America's Finest City, IMO) to be with my son and my family.  

I won't be posting as much...but maybe I will share a mini-video on my hometown of San Diego. Or maybe, I'll just be spending too much time having fun. 

Later...