If someone who is a white American male:
(1) likes to mimic a black man with verbiage such as, "look at me I'm a cool , jive talking, black man". This is a 2nd hand story...but I swear I heard he said nigger...but since it's a second hand story, I'm going to give this jerk the benefit of the doubt.
(2) interrupts your conversation (one he wasn't involved in) with a swim instructor to make the comment, "so it is true, black people can't swim".
(3) is the so-called good friend of your husband, yet when he sees you at a party, ignores you for a good hour, then when he walks up he states, "oh I didn't see you because it's dark in here", as he laughs at his so-called joke. BTW: It wasn't dark (don't think club dark; think intimate party dark...lights were on in both the kitchen and the living room we were in), and I'm one of only 2 Black females there
Is this person a racist, a jackass, an insensitive immature frat boy, or a combination of all of them?
16 comments:
Combination of ALL and more!
Good God.. He is a racist PIG and an A**hole.. and much more.. He can't be a friend of your husbands.. cause if he was.. he would never make such idiotic moronic comments!
My thoughts exactly. That is why I stated, "so-called" friend...because if he were a true friend of to husband...he would never have disrespected me like that; he'd have my back at a party. And, the deal is...I don't think his ass gets it.
FOLLOWING ARE RESPONSES I RECEIVED VIA EITHER (1) EMAIL OR (2) FACEBOOK:
**From a friend: Subject: what the fuck??!!!
I'm shocked and really disappointed by your blog today Terri. Haven't been exposed to ignorance like that in a long time - at least not to my face.
**From my dad: Hey,
I would say that there is more than his bigotry getting in his way (Brain Waves)… He’s probably a little envious/jealous of Roland. Sure, if he’s an American then that explains a lots ….. first he needs to feel superior, and to do this to feel good about himself he has to try and make you (or other ethnics) feel small. The old thing of putting someone down to feel good about himself. The best solution is not to respond to this crap. If you do then he’s accomplished what he was after and that feed his bigotry. When these types seen that that crap is not working on you they will move on. My life experiences with racism and Bigotry I learned at a very early age to not let those types make me sad/mad/or think less of myself. I simply avoided them as much as possible. Remember, don’t let that stuff rob you of your self respect by responding to it. If he has a problem with blacks then that’s his problem, not yours. Again, don’t worry about it, don’t respond to it in any way. But now that you know who/what this person is just use some reverse physiology on Him. Anywho, Take care and remember … The world is full of these types in all cultures and among our own …. SOooo Be Happy, Do Your Own Thing and don’t let others steal your Thunder….
**From an inspiration friend in Seattle: My vote is BOTH.. I don't validate those people even exist. They are like the wind. If they say something stupid I don't respond as if they were invisible. Be cool, they are trying to push your buttons. Just maybe if you don't respond or "Knock the Hell out of them" they will see that you are above the Stupid, Unintelligent, Ignorant remarks. Keep it Cool as I know you can "Black Chick in Saudi" If it continues then you speak up and say Mr. MothaF#*^ let me tell you a thing or to. I will beat your A** now and go to jail later. Okay that's me talking sorry my friend. I hope you laughed with that one.
I did laugh...and thanks (all of you) for your kind words.
Your father is a wise man! God Bless him.
Lobotomised...
So what does that mean? I get a really heavy tan next summer I will loose the ability to swim?
Better stay out of the sun a bit then.....
Aafke...not only will you not be able to swim...you will not be seen in a dimly lit room. =)
I think my Dad had it right...and we only agree about 50% - 60% of the time. LOL
I don't have anything to add over what everyone already commented so I got these jokes and I hope they cheer you up:
*A fat racist and a skinny racist jump off a cliff. Who wins? Society
*How do you get a racist to laugh on a Sunday? Tell them a joke on Friday
*How many racists does it take to change a light bulb? None, racists hate being enlightened.
*My racist has got no nose. How does he smell? Terrible.
*What did the racist do with a packet of M&M’s? Put them in alphabetical order.
*What do you call a racist with 2 brain cells? Pregnant.
*What does a racist and a sperm cell have in common? Only one in a million work.
*Why do racists compete on skin colour? If they competed on brains they would lose.
*Englishman, Irishman and a Racist standing on a cliff. A genie appears and grants each one a wish, when they jump off the cliff their wish will be granted.
Englishman wishes for loads of money, jumps off and lands in a truck full of Money. Everyone lives happily ever after.
Irishman wishes for peace in Northern Ireland, jumps and lands in a field of roses with angels singing in the background. Everyone lives happily ever after.
The racist didn’t understand the question, jumped off anyway and died. Everyone lives happily ever after.
:)
Hell(o) Freak!! You did make me smile. Thank U!! This whole thing has been draining. And, reading your jokes made me feel a whole lot better...something this persons "so-called" apology didn't even come close to touching.
Stay Well!!
I'm left wondering why you didn't beat the crap out of him??
I want to beat the crap out of him and I don't know him.
Joke?? How about my foot up his arse?? funny?? hahahaha
what a flippen idiot!!
Arrogant racists piss me off. I mean if your a closet racist.. than can't do much about it.
Nzingha: He knew at the time he over stepped his bounds; by my verbal response to him. But, the reason I didn't start getting real "black" on his ass, is because I was one of about 4 Black people at a party full of white people, and really...that's not my style. It wouldn't have been in my best interest to go there. However, as mentioned in the following post...he called to apologize...I pretty much didn't accept it; because I know sincerity when I hear it...and I didn't hear it from him...what I heard was someone who was afraid I may talk shit about him and/or the word may get back to the "powers that be". So...I'm just done with him, and unless I see something that changes my mind on who/what I think he is...he's no longer welcome in our home.
You have more control than me and definately more control than Mr. Man.
How does one apologize for being a racist jerk anyway??
"I didn't mean it like that"
"I thought since you're married to someone who's white (I had to correct this since my husband is Swedish, which believe me, is a whole different thing than a white American) I could joke like that"
"I meant it as a joke, I'm not a racist, I've dated people of other ethnicities"
"I'm sorry...I realized later it could have been taken he wrong way".
Blah, Blah, Blah...
BTW: These were all the things said to me in apology. Read the post that followed this one.
lol is the "I dated people with different ethnicities" the new "I have black friends" ??
i read the other post I wouldn't take this one down either :)
WOW- and WTF? Just getting caught up on your blog. are we in the South in the 1960's??? This is so pre-historic...... What an idiot. I would stear clear of this punk especially in the day light because you might not see his transparent racist ass!!!!
We love you and hate that there are such ignorance still out there ...and the world is not small and neither is access to the internet.
Hello Ms Monique...I must say...in the defense of the people that I have met here...most have been really nice and welcoming to me. Seriously...as mentioned...I was referring to one individual in particular who made specific comments to me.
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